Betty F. Strider On August 31, 2022, 96-year-old Betty F. Strider passed away peacefully surrounded by her loving family at her 64-year-old home in Charlottesville, Virginia.
Born in Leetown, Jefferson County, West Virginia on April 14, 1926, she was the daughter of the late Charles William Fulk, Sr. and the late Dorothy Sechrist Fulk. She was predeceased by David V. Strider, Sr., her husband of 55 years, in 2004; Charles William Fulk, Jr., his brother, in 2001; and Ursula Collier Strider, her stepdaughter, in 2005.
Immediate surviving family members include three children – David V. Strider, Jr. and his wife, Karen, of Charlottesville, Virginia; Jefferson S. Strider of Palmyra, Va. and William H. Strider of Ranson, WVa. Also survived are four grandchildren Brian C. Strider, his wife, Michelle of Cary, NC; Christopher A. Strider of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania; Anna C. Strider of Lake Charles, Louisiana; and Davia S. Sheets and her husband, Brandon of Lyndhurst, Virginia. As well as a great-grandchild, Adley Strider.
After living in Leetown and attending its 3-room elementary school, in 1941 Betty moved to “Clay Hill Farm”, her mother’s home in Jefferson County which is now occupied by her son, William. In 1944, Betty graduated from Charles Town High School with David, her high school sweetheart and ultimate husband.
Betty attended Mary Washington College at the University of Virginia (now the University of Mary Washington) in Fredericksburg, Virginia, while David attended the University of Virginia under the V-12 program instituted by the military needs of the Second World War. After graduating from Mary Washington in 1947, Betty married David in 1948 at “Clay Hill Farm”. Together they embarked in Sewickley, Pennsylvania to complete David’s medical training and internship, followed by his initial residency in Martinsburg, West Virginia. After David’s military service as a Navy doctor in Korea, they returned to Charlottesville in 1954 to complete David’s three-year residency in orthopedic surgery at the University of Virginia. They decided to establish David’s medical practice in Charlottesville where they enjoyed active involvement in the community and developed many deep friendships.
Betty had many interests – gardening, music, cooking, and a faithful correspondence with her many friends.
She had been a member of the Rivanna Garden Club for 57 years, having held several positions including a term as president from 1976 to 1978. She was always very active in support of the club’s annual garden week, including opening her garden in town – “Friendly” -, a small space constantly maintained throughout its life. Having loved music and the voice from an early age, she continued to take piano lessons in her 40s and studied under the famous Eula Mitchell, mother of concert pianist, Marjorie Mitchell. She was a strong supporter of the Charlottesville Symphony Society, having served on its board of directors. She has served on the board of the Martha Jefferson House and the Community Diversion Incentive Program, Charlottesville’s approach to providing first-time criminal offenders a second chance via early parole. In the 1960s, Betty also took flying lessons, flew a single-engine airplane solo, and proudly sported her cropped shirt tail.
Betty was a wonderful cook and was always ready to deliver food for any occasion or friend in need. She was famous for her family rum cake and Christmas was especially significant with her homemade cheese balls, herb crackers and “little red baskets” delivered to virtually everyone who came into contact with her.
She was a dedicated pen pal throughout her life – either neatly handwritten or expertly typed on her manual Remington typewriter. Once a name hit their address book, each important date was remembered with a card or letter and heartfelt words of encouragement. For more than 60 years, she also wrote a widely circulated Christmas letter – written less to tell you about her life, but rather with the hope that you would reciprocate with your own news. Similar to her correspondence, she was a constant supporter of alumni events held for her promotion to both Charles Town High School and Mary Washington College and David’s Medical School Class. She was a staunch supporter of Westminster Presbyterian Church of which she had been a member since 1957.
Betty’s unwavering support, caring dedication and generous love will be missed by many.
The family appreciates the excellent service of their carers over the past few years – especially Mae Veney Payne, Monique Scott, Connie Anderson, Latoya Morse, Brenda Thomas and Betty Brown.
A funeral service will be held at Monticello Memory Gardens at 11 a.m. Thursday, September 8 with a reception immediately following at Farmington Country Club: 1625 Country Club Circle, Charlottesville, VA 22901.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests contributions to the Garden Club of Virginia, Kent Valentine House, 12 East Franklin Street, Richmond, Virginia 23219; or Charlottesville Symphony Society, PO Box 4206, Charlottesville, VA 22905; or Westminster Presbyterian Church, 400 Rugby Road, Charlottesville, VA 22903.
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